Chapter 10
Dealing With Problems
You are going to run into problems in your meditation. Everybody
does. Problems come in all shapes and sizes, and the only thing you can be absolutely
certain about is that you will have some. The main trick in dealing with
obstacles is to adopt the right attitude. Difficulties are an integral part of
your practice. They aren't something to be avoided. They are something to be
used. They provide invaluable opportunities for learning.
The reason we are all stuck in life's mud is that we ceaselessly
run from our problems and after our desires. Meditation provides us with a
laboratory situation in which we can examine this syndrome and devise strategies
for dealing with it. The various snags and hassles that arise during meditation
are grist for the mill. They are the material on which we work. There is no
pleasure without some degree of pain. There is no pain without some amount of
pleasure. Life is composed of joys and miseries. They go hand-in-hand.
Meditation is no exception. You will experience good times and bad times,
ecstasies and frightening times.
So don't be surprised when you hit some experience that feels like
a brick wall. Don't think you are special. Every seasoned meditator
has had his own brick walls. They come up again and
again. Just expect them and be ready to cope. Your ability to cope with trouble
depends upon your attitude. If you can learn to regard these hassles as
opportunities, as chances to develop in your practice, you'll make progress.
Your ability to deal with some issue that arises in meditation will carry over
into the rest of your life and allow you to smooth out the big issues that
really bother you. If you try to avoid each piece of nastiness that arises in
meditation, you are simply reinforcing the habit that has already made life
seem so unbearable at times.
It is essential to learn to confront the less pleasant aspects of
existence. Our job as meditators is to learn to be
patient with ourselves, to see ourselves in an unbiased way, complete with all
our sorrows and inadequacies. We have to learn to be kind to ourselves. In the
long run, avoiding unpleasantness is a very unkind thing to do to yourself. Paradoxically, kindness entails confronting
unpleasantness when it arises. One popular human strategy for dealing with
difficulty is autosuggestion: when something nasty pops up, you convince
yourself it is pleasant rather than unpleasant. The Buddha's tactic is quite
the reverse. Rather than hide it or disguise it, the Buddha's teaching urges
you to examine it to death. Buddhism advises you not to implant feelings that
you don't really have or avoid feelings that you do have. If you are miserable
you are miserable; this is the reality, that is what is happening, so confront
that. Look it square in the eye without flinching. When you are having a bad
time, examine the badness, observe it mindfully, study the phenomenon and learn
its mechanics. The way out of a trap is to study the trap itself, learn how it
is built. You do this by taking the thing apart piece by piece. The trap can't
trap you if it has been taken to pieces. The result is freedom.
This point is essential, but it is one of the least understood
aspects of Buddhist philosophy. Those who have studied Buddhism superficially
are quick to conclude that it is a pessimistic set of teachings, always harping
on unpleasant things like suffering, always urging us to confront the
uncomfortable realities of pain, death and illness. Buddhist thinkers do not
regard themselves as pessimists--quite the opposite, actually. Pain exists in
the universe; some measure of it is unavoidable. Learning to deal with it is
not pessimism, but a very pragmatic form of optimism. How would you deal with
the death of your spouse? How would you feel if you lost your mother tomorrow? Or your sister or your closest friend? Suppose you lost your
job, your savings, and the use of your hands, on the same day; could you face
the prospect of spending the rest of your life in a wheelchair? How are you
going to cope with the pain of terminal cancer if you contract it, and how will
you deal with your own death, when that approaches? You may escape most of
these misfortunes, but you won't escape all of them. Most of us lose friends
and relatives at some time during our lives; all of us get sick now and then;
at the very least you are going to die someday. You can suffer through things
like that or you can face them openly--the choice is yours.
Pain is inevitable, suffering is not. Pain and suffering are two
different animals. If any of these tragedies strike you in your present state
of mind, you will suffer. The habit patterns that presently control your mind
will lock you into that suffering and there will be no escape. A bit of time
spent in learning alternatives to those habit patterns is time will-invested.
Most human beings spend all their energies devising ways to increase their
pleasure and decrease their pain. Buddhism does not advise that you cease this
activity altogether. Money and security are fine. Pain should be avoided where
possible. Nobody is telling you to give away all your possessions or seek out
needless pain, but Buddhism does advise you to invest some of your time and
energy in learning to deal with unpleasantness, because some pain is
unavoidable.
When you see a truck bearing down on you, by all means jump out of
the way. But spend some time in meditation, too. Learning to deal with
discomfort is the only way you'll be ready to handle the truck you didn't see.
Problems arise in your practice. Some of them will be physical,
some will be emotional, and some will be attitudinal. All of them are confrontable and each has its own specific response. All of
them are opportunities to free yourself.
Problem 1
Physical Pain
Nobody likes pain, yet everybody has some sometime. It is one of
life's most common experiences and is bound to arise in your meditation in one
form or another. Handling pain is a two-stage process. First, get rid of the
pain if possible or at least get rid of it as much as possible. Then, if some
pain lingers, use it as an abject of meditation.
The first step is physical handling. Maybe the pain is an illness
of one sort or another, a headache, fever, bruises or whatever. In this case,
employ standard medical treatments before you sit down to meditate: take your
medicine, apply your liniment, do whatever you ordinarily do. Then there are
certain pains that are specific to the seated posture. If you never spend much
time sitting cross-legged on the floor, there will be an adjustment period.
Some discomfort is nearly inevitable. According to where the pain is, there are
specific remedies. If the pain is in the leg or knees, check you pants. If they are tight or made of thick material,
that could be the problem. Try to change it. Check your cushion, too. It should
be about three inches in height when compressed. If the pain is around your
waist, try loosening your belt. Loosen the waistband of your pants is that is
necessary. If you experience pain in your lower back, your posture is probably
at fault. Slouching will never be comfortable, so straighten up. Don't be tight
or rigid, but do keep your spine erect. Pain in the neck or upper back has
several sources. The first is improper hand position. Your hands should be
resting comfortably in your lap. Don't pull them up to your waist. Relax your
arms and your neck muscles. Don't let your head droop forward. Keep it up and
aligned with the rest of the spine.
After you have made all these various adjustments, you may find
you still have some lingering pain. If that is the case, try step two. Make the
pain your object of meditation. Don't jump up and down and get excited. Just
observe the pain mindfully. When the pain becomes demanding, you will find it
pulling your attention off the breath. Don't fight back. Just let your
attention slide easily over onto the simple sensation. Go into the pain fully.
Don't block the experience. Explore the feeling. Get beyond your avoiding
reaction and go into the pure sensations that lie below that. You will discover
that there are two things present. The first is the simple sensation--pain itself. Second is your resistance to that sensation.
Resistance reaction is partly mental and partly physical. The physical part
consists of tensing the muscles in and around the painful area. Relax those
muscles. Take them one by one and relax each one very thoroughly. This step
alone probably diminishes the pain significantly. Then go after the mental side
of the resistance. Just as you are tensing physically, you are also tensing
psychologically. You are clamping down mentally on the sensation of pain,
trying to screen it off and reject it from consciousness. The rejection is a
wordless, "I don't like this feeling" or "go away"
attitude. It is very subtle. But it is there, and you can
find it if you really look. Locate it and relax that, too.
That last part is more subtle. There are really no human words to
describe this action precisely. The best way to get a handle on it is by
analogy. Examine what you did to those tight muscles and transfer that same
action over to the mental sphere; relax the mind in the same way that you relax
the body. Buddhism recognizes that the body and mind are tightly linked. This is
so true that many people will not see this as a two-step procedure. For them to
relax the body is to relax the mind and vice versa. These people will
experience the entire relaxation, mental and physical, as a single process. In
any case, just let go completely till you awareness slows down past that
barrier which you yourself erected. It was a gap, a sense of distance between
self and others. It was a borderline between 'me' and 'the pain'. Dissolve that
barrier, and separation vanishes. You slow down into that sea of surging
sensation and you merge with the pain. You become the pain. You watch its ebb
and flow and something surprising happens. It no longer hurts. Suffering is
gone. Only the pain remains, an experience, nothing more. The 'me' who was being
hurt has gone. The result is freedom from pain.
This is an incremental process. In the beginning, you can expect
to succeed with small pains and be defeated by big ones. Like most of our
skills, it grows with practice. The more you practice, the bigger the pain you
can handle. Please understand fully. There is no masochism being advocated
here. Self- mortification is not the point.
This is an exercise in awareness, not in sadism. If the pain
becomes excruciating, go ahead and move, but move slowly and mindfully. Observe
your movements. See how it feels to move. Watch what it does to the pain. Watch the pain diminish. Try not to move too much though.
The less you move, the easier it is to remain fully mindful. New meditators sometimes say they have trouble remaining
mindful when pain is present. This difficulty stems from a misunderstanding.
These students are conceiving mindfulness as something distinct from the
experience of pain. It is not. Mindfulness never exists by itself. It always
has some object and one object is as good as another. Pain is a mental state.
You can be mindful of pain just as you are mindful of breathing.
The rules we covered in Chapter 4 apply to pain just as they apply
to any other mental state. You must be careful not to reach beyond the
sensation and not to fall short of it. Don't add anything to it, and don't miss
any part of it. Don't muddy the pure experience with concepts or pictures or
discursive thinking. And keep your awareness right in the present time, right
with the pain, so that you won't miss its beginning or its end. Pain not viewed
in the clear light of mindfulness gives rise to emotional reactions like fear,
anxiety, or anger. If it is properly viewed, we have no such reaction. It will
be just sensation, just simple energy. Once you have learned this technique
with physical pain, you can then generalize it in the rest of your life. You
can use it on any unpleasant sensation. What works on pain will work on anxiety
or chronic depression. This technique is one of life's most useful and generalizable skills. It is patience.
Problem 2
Legs Going To Sleep
It is very common for beginners to have their legs fall asleep or
go numb during meditation. They are simply not accustomed to the cross-legged
posture. Some people get very anxious about this. They feel they must get up
and move around. A few are completely convinced that they will get gangrene
from lack of circulation. Numbness in the leg is nothing to worry about. it is caused by nerve-pinch, not by lack of circulation. You
can't damage the tissues of your legs by sitting. So relax. When your legs fall
asleep in meditation, just mindfully observe the phenomenon. Examine what it
feels like. It may be sort of uncomfortable, but it is not painful unless you
tense up. Just stay calm and watch it. It does not matter if your legs go numb
and stay that way for the whole period. After you have
meditated for some time, that numbness gradually will disappear. Your
body simply adjusts to daily practice. Then you can sit for very long sessions
with no numbness whatever.
Problem 3
Odd Sensations
People experience all manner of varied phenomena in meditation.
Some people get itches. Others feel tingling, deep relaxation, a feeling of lightness
or a floating sensation. You may feel yourself growing or shrinking or rising
up in the air. Beginners often get quite excited over such sensations. As
relaxation sets in, the nervous system simply begins to pass sensory signals
more efficiently. Large amounts of previously blocked sensory data can pour
through, giving rise to all manner of unique sensations. It does not signify
anything in particular. It is just sensation. So simply employ the normal
technique. Watch it come up and watch it pass away. Don't get involved.
Problem 4
Drowsiness
It is quite common to experience drowsiness during meditation. You
become very calm and relaxed. That is exactly what is supposed to happen.
Unfortunately, we ordinarily experience this lovely state only when we are
falling asleep, and we associate it with that process. So naturally, you begin
to drift off. When you find this happening, apply your mindfulness to the state
of drowsiness itself. Drowsiness has certain definite characteristics. It does
certain things to your thought process. Find out what. It has certain body
feelings associated with it. Locate those.
This inquisitive awareness is the direct opposite of drowsiness,
and will evaporate it. If it does not, then you should suspect a physical cause
of your sleepiness. Search that out and handle it. If you have just eaten large
meal, that could be the cause. It is best to eat lightly before you meditate.
Or wait an hour after a big meal. And don't overlook the obvious either. If you
have been out loading bricks all day, you are naturally going to be tired. The
same is true if you only got a few hours sleep the night before. Take care of
your body's physical needs. Then meditate. Do not give in to sleepiness. Stay
awake and mindful, for sleep and meditative concentration are two diametrically
opposite experiences. You will not gain any new insight from sleep, but only
from meditation. If you are very sleepy then take a deep breath and hold it as
long as you can. Then breathe out slowly. Take another deep breath again, hold
it as long as you can and breathe out slowly. Repeat this exercise until your
body warms up and sleepiness fades away. Then return to your breath.
Problem 5
Inability To Concentrate
An overactive, jumping attention is something that everybody
experiences from time to time. It is generally handled by techniques presented
in the chapter on distractions. You should also be informed, however, that
there are certain external factors which contribute to this phenomenon. And
these are best handled by simple adjustments in your schedule. Mental images
are powerful entities. They can remain in the mind for long periods. All of the
storytelling arts are direct manipulation of such material, and to the extent
the writer has done his job well, the characters and images presented will have
a powerful and lingering effect on the mind. If you have been to the best movie
of the year, the meditation which follows is going to be full of those images.
If you are halfway through the scariest horror novel you ever read, your
meditation is going to be full of monsters. So switch the order of events. Do
your meditation first. Then read or go to the movies.
Another influential factor is your own emotional state. If there
is some real conflict in your life, that agitation will carry over into
meditation. Try to resolve your immediate daily conflicts before meditation
when you can. Your life will run smoother, and you won't be pondering uselessly
in your practice. But don't use this advice as a way to avoid meditation.
Sometimes you can't resolve every issue before you sit. Just go ahead and sit
anyway. Use your meditation to let go of all the egocentric attitudes that keep
you trapped within your own limited viewpoint. Your problems will resolve much
more easily thereafter. And then there are those days when it seems that the
mind will never rest, but your can't locate any apparent cause. Remember the cyclic
alternation we spoke of earlier. Meditation goes in cycles. You have good days
and you have bad days.
Vipassana meditation is primarily an exercise in awareness. Emptying the
mind is not as important as being mindful of what the mind is doing. If you are
frantic and you can't do a thing to stop it, just observe. It is all you. The
result will be one more step forward in your journey of self-exploration. Above
all, don't get frustrated over the nonstop chatter of your mind. That babble is
just one more thing to be mindful of.
Problem 6
Boredom
It is difficult to imagine anything more inherently boring than
sitting still for an hour with nothing to do but feel the air going in and out
of your nose. You are going to run into boredom repeatedly in your meditation.
Everybody does. Boredom is a mental state and should be treated as such. A few
simple strategies will help you to cope.
Tactic A: Re-establish true mindfulness
If the breath seems an exceedingly dull thing to observe over and
over, you may rest assured of one thing: You have ceased to observe the process
with true mindfulness. Mindfulness is never boring. Look again. Don't assume
that you know what breath is. Don't take it for granted that you have already
seen everything there is to see. If you do, you are conceptualizing the
process. You are not observing its living reality. When you are clearly mindful
of breath or indeed anything else, it is never boring. Mindfulness looks at
everything with the eyes of a child, with the sense of wonder. Mindfulness sees
every second as if it were the first and the only second in the universe. So
look again.
Tactic B: Observe your mental state
Look at your state of boredom mindfully. What is boredom? Where is
boredom? What does it feel like? What are its mental
component? Does it have any physical feeling? What does it do to your
thought process? Take a fresh look at boredom, as if you have never experienced
that state before.
Problem 7
Fear
States of fear sometimes arise during meditation for no
discernible reason. It is a common phenomenon, and there can be a number of
causes. You may be experiencing the effect of something repressed long ago.
Remember, thoughts arise first in the unconscious. The emotional contents of a
thought complex often leach through into your conscious awareness long before
the thought itself surfaces. If you sit through the fear, the memory itself may
bubble up where you can endure it. Or you may be dealing directly with that
fear which we all fear: 'fear of the unknown'. At some point in your meditation
career, you will be struck with the seriousness of what you are actually doing.
You are tearing down the wall of illusion you have always used to explain life
to yourself and to shield yourself from the intense flame of reality. You are
about to meet ultimate truth face to face. That is scary. But it has to be
dealt with eventually. Go ahead and dive right in.
A third possibility: the fear that your are
feeling may be self- generated. It may be arising out of unskillful
concentration. You may have set an unconscious program to 'examine what comes
up.' Thus when a frightening fantasy arises, concentration locks onto it and
the fantasy feeds on the energy of your attention and grows. The real problem
here is that mindfulness is weak. If mindfulness was strongly developed, it
would notice this switch of attention as soon as it occurred and handle the
situation in the usual manner. Not matter what the
source of your fear, mindfulness is the cure. Observe the emotional reactions
that come along and know them for what they are. Stand aside from the process
and don't get involved. Treat the whole dynamic as if you were an interested
bystander. Most importantly, don't fight the situation. Don't try to repress
the memories or the feelings or the fantasies. Just step out of the way and let
the whole mess bubble up and flow past. It can't hurt you. It is just memory.
It is only fantasy. It is nothing but fear.
When you let it run its course in the arena of conscious
attention, it won't sink back into the unconscious. It won't come back to haunt
you later. It will be gone for good.
Problem 8
Agitation
Restlessness is often a cover-up for some deeper experience taking
place in the unconscious. We humans are great at repressing things. Rather than
confronting some unpleasant thought we experience, we try to bury it. We won't
have to deal with the issue. Unfortunately, we usually don't succeed, at least
not fully. We hide the thought, but the mental energy we use to cover it up
sits there and boils. The result is that sense of uneasiness which we call
agitation or restlessness. There is nothing you can put your finger on. But you
don't feel at ease. You can't relax. When this uncomfortable state arises in
mediation, just observe it. Don't let it rule you. Don't jump up and run off.
And don't struggle with it and try to make it go away. Just let it be there and
watch it closely. Then the repressed material will eventually surface and you
will find out what you have been worrying about.
The unpleasant experience that you have been trying to avoid could
be almost anything: Guilt, greed or problems. It could be a low-grade pain or
subtle sickness or approaching illness. Whatever it is, let it arise and look
at it mindfully. If you just sit still and observe your agitation, it will
eventually pass. Sitting through restlessness is a little breakthrough in your
meditation career. It will teach you much. You will find that agitation is
actually a rather superficial mental state. It is inherently ephemeral. It
comes and it goes. It has no real grip on you at all. Here again the rest of
your life will profit.
Problem 9
Trying Too Hard
Advanced meditators are generally found
to be pretty jovial men and women. They possess that most valuable of all human
treasures, a sense of humor. It is not the superficial witty repartee of the
talk show host. It is a real sense of humor. They can laugh at their own human
failures. They can chuckle at personal disasters. Beginners in meditation are
often much too serious for their own good. So laugh a little. It is important
to learn to loosen up in your session, to relax into your meditation. You need
to learn to flow with whatever happens. You can't do that if you are tensed and
striving, taking it all so very, very seriously. New meditators
are often overly eager for results. They are full of enormous and inflated
expectations. They jump right in and expect incredible results in no time flat.
They push. They tense. They sweat and strain, and it is all so terribly,
terribly grim and solemn. This state of tension is the direct antithesis of
mindfulness. So naturally they achieve little. Then they decide that this
meditation is not so exciting after all. It did not give them what they wanted.
They chuck it aside. It should be pointed out that you learn about meditation
only by meditating. You learn what meditation is all about and where it leads
only through direct experience of the thing itself. Therefore the beginner does
not know where he is headed because he has developed little sense of where his
practice is leading.
The novice's expectation is inherently unrealistic and uninformed.
As a newcomer to meditation, he or she would expect all the wrong things, and
those expectations do you no good at all. They get in the way. Trying too hard leads to rigidity and unhappiness, to guilt and
self-condemnation. When you are trying too hard, your effort becomes
mechanical and that defeats mindfulness before it even gets started. You are
well-advised to drop all that. Drop your expectations and straining. Simply
meditate with a steady and balanced effort. Enjoy your mediation and don't load
yourself down with sweat and struggles. Just be mindful. The meditation itself
will take care of the future.
Problem 10
Discouragement
The direct upshot of pushing too hard is frustration. You are in a
state of tension. You get nowhere. You realize you are not making the progress
you expected, so you get discouraged. You feel like a failure. It is all a very
natural cycle, but a totally avoidable one. The source is striving after
unrealistic expectations. Nevertheless, it is a common enough syndrome and, in
spite of all the best advice, you may find it happening to you. There is a
solution. If you find yourself discouraged, just observe your state of mind
clearly. Don't add anything to it. Just watch it. A sense of failure is only
another ephemeral emotional reaction. If you get involved, it feeds on your
energy and grows. If you simply stand aside and watch it, it passes away.
If you are discouraged over your perceived failure in meditation,
that is especially easy to deal with. You feel you have failed in your practice.
You have failed to be mindful. Simply become mindful of that sense of failure.
You have just re-established your mindfulness with that single step. The reason
for your sense of failure is nothing but memory. There is no such thing as
failure in meditation. There are setbacks and difficulties. But there is no
failure unless you give up entirely. Even if you spend twenty solid years
getting nowhere, you can be mindful at any second you choose to do so. It is
your decision. Regretting is only one more way of being unmindful. The instant
that you realize that you have been unmindful, that realization itself is an
act of mindfulness. So continue the process. Don't get sidetracked in an
emotional reaction.
Problem 11
Resistance To Meditation
There are times when you don't feel like meditating. The very idea
seems obnoxious. Missing a single practice session is scarcely important, but
it very easily becomes a habit. It is wiser to push on through the resistance.
Go sit anyway. Observe this feeling of aversion. In most cases it is a passing
emotion, a flash in the pan that will evaporate right in front of your eyes.
Five minutes after you sid
down it is gone. In other cases it is due to some sour mood that day, and it
lasts longer. Still, it does pass. And it is better to get rid of it in twenty
or thirty minutes of meditation than to carry it around with you and let it
ruin the rest of your day. Another time, resistance may be due to some
difficulty you are having with the practice itself. You may or may not know
what that difficulty is. If the problem is known, handle it by one of the
techniques given in this book. Once the problem is gone, resistance will be
gone. If the problem is unknown, then you are going to have to tough it out.
Just sit through the resistance and observe that mindfully. When it has finally
run its course, it will pass. Then the problem causing it will probably bubble
up in its wake, and you can deal with that.
If resistance to meditation is a common feature of your practice,
then you should suspect some subtle error in your basic attitude. Meditation is
not a ritual conducted in a particular posture. It is not a painful exercise,
or period of enforced boredom. And it is not some grim, solemn, obligation.
Meditation is mindfulness. it is a new way of seeing
and it is a form of play. Meditation is your friend. Come to regard it as such
and resistance will wash away like smoke on a summer breeze.
If you try all these possibilities and the resistance remains,
then there may be a problem. There can be certain metaphysical snags that a meditator runs into which go far beyond the scope of this
book. It is not common for new meditators to hit
these, but it can happen. Don't give up. Go get help. Seek out qualified
teachers of the Vipassana style of meditation and ask
them to help you resolve the situation. Such people exist for exactly that
purpose.
Problem 12
Stupor or Dullness
We have already discussed the sinking mind phenomenon. But there
is a special route to that state you should watch for. Mental dullness can
result as an unwanted byproduct of deepening concentration. As your relaxation
deepens, muscles loosen and nerve transmission changes. This produces a very
calm and light feeling in the body. you feel very
still and somewhat divorced from the body. this is a
very pleasant state and at first your concentration is quite good, nicely
centered on the breath. As it continues, however, the pleasant feeling
intensify and they distract your attention from the breath. You start to really
enjoy that state and your mindfulness goes way down. Your attention winds up
scattered, drifting listlessly through vague clouds of bliss. The result is a
very unmindful state, sort of an ecstatic stupor. The cure, of course, is
mindfulness. Mindfully observe these phenomena and they will dissipate. When
blissful feelings arise accept them. There is no need to avoid them. Don't get
wrapped up in them. They are physical feelings, so treat them as such. Observe
feelings as feelings. Observe dullness as dullness. Watch them rise and watch
them pass. Don't get involved.
You will have problems in meditation. Everybody does. You can
treat them as terrible torments, or as challenges to be overcome. If you regard
them as burdens, you suffering will only increase. If you regard them as
opportunities to learn and to grow, your spiritual prospects are unlimited
Chapter 11
Dealing with Distractions – I
At some time, every meditator encounters
distractions during practice, and methods are needed to deal with them. Some elegant
stratagems have been devised to get you back on the track more quickly than
trying to push your way through by sheer force of will. Concentration and
mindfulness go hand-in-hand. Each one complements the other. If
either one is weak, the other will eventually be affected. Bad days are
usually characterized by poor concentration. Your mind just keeps floating
around. You need some method of reestablishing your concentration, even in the
face of mental adversity. Luckily, you have it. In fact you can take your
choice from a traditional array of practical maneuvers.
Maneuver 1
Time Gauging
This first technique has been covered in an earlier chapter. A
distraction has pulled you away from the breath, and you suddenly realize that you've
been day-dreaming. The trick is to pull all the way out of whatever has
captured you, to break its hold on you completely so you can go back to the
breath with full attention. You do this by gauging the length of time that you
were distracted. This is not a precise calculation. you
don't need a precise figure, just a rough estimate. You can figure it in
minutes, or by idea significance. Just say to yourself,
"Okay, I have been distracted for about two minutes" or "Since
the dog started barking" or "Since I started thinking about
money." When you first start practicing this technique, you will do it by
talking to yourself inside your head. Once the habit is well established, you
can drop that, and the action becomes wordless and very quick. The whole idea,
remember, is to pull out of the distraction and get back to the breath. You
pull out of the thought by making it the object of inspection just long enough
to glean from it a rough approximation of its duration. The interval itself is
not important. Once you are free of the distraction, drop the whole thing and
go back to the breath. Do not get hung up in the estimate.
Maneuver 2
Deep Breaths
When your mind is wild and agitated, you can often re-establish
mindfulness with a few quick deep breaths. Pull the air in strongly and let it
out the same way. This increases the sensation inside the nostrils and makes it
easier to focus. Make a strong act of will and apply some force to your
attention. Concentration can be forced into growth, remember, so you will
probably find your full attention settling nicely back on the breath.
Maneuver 3
Counting
Counting the breaths as they pass is a highly traditional
procedure. Some schools of practice teach this activity as their primary
tactic. Vipassana uses it as an auxiliary technique
for re-establishing mindfulness and for strengthening concentration. As we
discussed in Chapter 5, you can count breaths in a number of different ways.
Remember to keep your attention on the breath. You will probably notice a
change after you have done your counting. The breath slows down, or it becomes
very light and refined. This is a physiological signal that concentration has
become well-established. At this point, the breath is usually so light or so
fast and gentle that you can't clearly distinguish the inhalation from the
exhalation. They seem to blend into each other. You can then count both of them
as a single cycle. Continue your counting process, but only up to a count of
five, covering the same five-breath sequence, then start over. When counting
becomes a bother, go on to the next step. Drop the numbers and forget about the
concepts of inhalation and exhalation. Just dive right in to the pure sensation
of breathing. Inhalation blends into exhalation. One breath blends into the
next in a never ending cycle of pure, smooth flow.
Maneuver 4
The In-Out Method
This is an alternative to counting, and it functions in much the
manner. Just direct your attention to the breath and mentally tag each cycle
with the words "Inhalation...exhalation" or 'In...out".
Continue the process until you no longer need these concepts, and then throw
them away.
Maneuver 5
Canceling One Thought With Another
Some thoughts just won't go away. We humans are obsessional beings. It's one of our biggest problems. We
tend to lock onto things like sexual fantasies and worries and ambitions. We
feed those though complexes over the years of time and give them plenty of
exercise by playing with them in every spare moment. Then when we sit down to
meditate, we order them to go away and leave us alone. It is scarcely
surprising that they don't obey. Persistent thoughts like these require a
direct approach, a full- scale frontal attack.
Buddhist psychology has developed a distinct system of
classification. Rather than dividing thoughts into classes like 'good' or
'bad', Buddhist thinkers prefer to regard them as 'skillful' versus
'unskillful'. An unskillful thought is on connected with greed, hatred, or
delusion. These are the thoughts that the mind most easily builds into
obsessions. They are unskillful in the sense that they lead you away from the
goal of Liberation. Skillful thoughts, on the other hand, are those connected
with generosity, compassion, and wisdom. They are skillful in the sense that
they may be used as specific remedies for unskillful thoughts, and thus can
assist you toward Liberation.
You cannot condition Liberation. It is not a state built out of
thoughts. Nor can you condition the personal qualities which Liberation
produces. Thoughts of benevolence can produce a semblance of benevolence, but
it's not the real item. It will break down under pressure. Thoughts of
compassion produce only superficial compassion. Therefore, these skillful
thoughts will not, in themselves, free you from the trap. They are skillful
only if applied as antidotes to the poison of unskillful thoughts. Thoughts of
generosity can temporarily cancel greed. They kick it under the rug long enough
for mindfulness to do its work unhindered. Then, when mindfulness has penetrated
to the roots of the ego process, greed evaporates and true generosity arises.
This principle can be used on a day to day basis in your own
meditation. If a particular sort of obsession is troubling you, you can cancel
it out by generating its opposite. Here is an example: If you absolutely hate
Charlie, and his scowling face keeps popping into your mind, try directing a
stream of love and friendliness toward Charlie. You probably will get rid of
the immediate mental image. Then you can get on with the job of meditation.
Sometimes this tactic alone doesn't work. The obsession is simply
too strong. In this case you've got to weaken its hold on you somewhat before
you can successfully balance it out. Here is where guilt, one of man's most
misbegotten emotions, finally becomes of some use. Take a good strong look at
the emotional response you are trying to get rid of. Actually ponder it. See
how it makes you feel. Look at what it is doing to your life, your happiness,
your health, and your relationships. Try to see how it makes you appear to
others. Look at the way it is hindering your progress toward Liberation. The Pali scriptures urge you to do this very thoroughly indeed.
They advise you to work up the same sense of disgust and humiliation that you
would feel if you were forced to walk around with the carcass of a dead and
decaying animal tied around your neck. Real loathing is what you are after.
This step may end the problem all by itself. If it doesn't, then balance out
the lingering remainder of the obsession by once again generating its opposite
emotion.
Thoughts of greed cover everything connected with desire, from
outright avarice for material gain, all the way down to a subtle need to be
respected as a moral person. Thoughts of hatred run the gamut from petty
peevishness to murderous rage. Delusion covers everything from daydreaming
through actual hallucinations. Generosity cancels greed. Benevolence and
compassion cancel hatred. You can find a specific antidote for any troubling
thought if you just think about it a while.
Maneuver 6
Recalling Your Purpose
There are times when things pop into your mind, apparently at
random. Words, phrases, or whole sentences jump up out of the unconscious for
no discernible reason. Objects appear. Pictures flash on and off. This is an
unsettling experience. Your mind feels like a flag flapping in a stiff wind. It
washes back and forth like waves in the ocean. At times like this it is often
enough just to remember why you are there. You can say to yourself, "I'm
not sitting here just to waste my time with these thoughts. I'm here to focus
my mind on the breath, which is universal and common to all living
beings". Sometimes your mind will settle down, even before you complete
this recitation. Other times you may have to repeat it several times before you
refocus on the breath.
These techniques can be used singly, or in
combinations. Properly employed, they constitute quite an effective arsenal for
your battle against the monkey mind.
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